Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Trying to find some normalcy...

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Things are still very stressful and overwhelming. Trying to plan funeral/memorial service arrangements, trying to handle my mother's estate all while still trying to grieve.

My mother was given only three weeks to live and she passed one day shy of those three weeks. We were completely blindsided.

This whole ordeal has put a lot of things into perspective for my sweet hubs and I. Like the importance of having a will and the importance of adequate life insurance. Here in New York State, the average cost for a funeral is ten thousand dollars or more.

Also having a Power of Attorney, a Health Care Proxy and having a DNR if you so choose not to be resuscitated. Scary things to talk about. But it needs to be discussed.

By taking care of these things in advance, will help ease the anxiety of those you leave behind.







7 comments:

Earlene L. said...

Very shocking it was so fast.
Deepest Sympathy
(((Hugs))))
Earlene

tattered 'n torn prims said...

Oh Peanut! My heart aches for you knowing all too well the path you are walking!! The legal part of death and dying is pure torture in the wake of the passing!! I continue to hold you close in my thoughts and prayers!! Take care of yourself....and when you can't make sure to allows others to!! Much love and sympathy!! God bless!!

Countryfolk Keepsakes said...

Earlene, we still cannot believe it. Even her physicians were shocked at the path her pancreatic cancer took.
Stace, "pure torture" are the appropriate words describing the legal part of a death and I've only scratched the surface.

Judi Hunziker said...

Earlene said it best! My thoughts and many prayers are with you Kerin as you take on one of the hardest tasks of saying goodbye.

Raymond Homestead said...

I wish there were magic words I could give to you to make things better but unfortunately there just arn't any. I know after my husband lost his parents, we discovered the importance of having a will, insurance and so on. Although we discovered a will can be changed so upon recommendation of our lawyer, we set up a "trust" for our children. It is comforting to know we have that in place now. Hugs, Mindy

Peri said...

I agree with you about the need for understanding of the legal needs one should take care of prior to illnesses which may be fatal. We have to be more practical than we really want to be! It is tough doing it at all, but dealing with the actuality of illness without such things as a DNR or a P of A or a Proxy is a real heart-breaker! I empathize...had to deal with it for our Momma and it "ain't a cake walk" for sure. The only way to deal with it is to postpone the deep grieving and just grit yer teeth and do it all. Then in a week or so have a three day melt down! If there is anything Susan or I can do, give a call...collect!

Carol Roll said...

Sorry you have to go through all this in addition to the heartache of losing your mom.

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